Dawn-Elise Snipes Feb 18, What does dominant and submissive mean in a relationship? Their fictitious BDSM relationship revolves around power dynamic , power play, and bondage and discipline. Christian Grey is evidently a male dominatrix the dominant partner , whereas Anastasia Steele plays a submissive role. Now, when we shift to reality, the first question that probably comes to mind is: Does that kind of relationship really exist? How does it work?

Takeaway: Use your powers as a Dominant for good! The first time I ever found myself in a bedroom, surrounded by rope and in the presence of a willing girl, I will confess I let the moment go to my head. I was 20 years old, she was eager to please, and I had absolutely zero experience with neither rope play , nor acting like someone who was supposed to be "in control" of a kinky situation. As such, we spent very little time talking about scenes and expectations, and plenty of time getting hot and bothered by the prospect of playing master and slave. Or in the case of my mind, kidnapper and victim.

One of the most common topics dominant men want to talk to me about are the rules for their submissive, more specifically what rules to create, what rules to avoid, and how to enforce them. Some of these rules are inherent to the dynamic, while the others are enforced as a reaction to it. I am a proponent of honest dynamics. What I mean by this is I, personally, am only interested in truly honest reactions and interactions with a sub. The more information you have, the more able you will be to accomplish this, and the greatest source of information from your sub will always be interactions, honest to the core.

First thing to consider is that domination itself is not a specific act but more of a context on how that act is applied. That being said domination can range the entire spectrum of everything sexual from pillow talk to things that could be considered torture in any other context. This way while reading this, just like in the bedroom, you can go only as far as you feel comfortable with and stop. Before we get to far there are a few things to consider. Most of you may know this already but for those exploring this for the first time may of the things beyond this point run the risk of causing discomfort both emotional and physical.